Hello Planet Blog! As you can tell, I’m writing to you safe and sound from Helsinki, Finland secure in my production office for the day. But that was totally obvious, so I’m not sure why I insulted your intelligence by mentioning it.
I’ve been to this venue many times. It’s always a pleasure coming here, and a flood of memories always come back, although ironically, what happens after the show while in Helsinki is usually a blur. Likely because their country’s house wine is vodka.
Do you have a reputation? What is it, and where did it come from? Is it accurate? What do you think about it?
When I walked in and saw the venue folks, I was greeted with, “Oh, you’re here? Yay! At least we know it will be a super easy day with no bullshit.”
That is the reputation that precedes me. I am very thorough and work hard for the bands that I represent. I am nice as pie and firmly believe there are no problems, only solutions. You catch more flies with honey. If you want something done right, do it yourself, but don’t be afraid to ask for help and any other number of work ethic mottos slapped on attempted motivational posters.
There is compromise, and then there are pushovers. I have no tolerance for pushovers, nor do I have tolerance for disrespect.
It’s tough being a female in this business. Usually, being the only female on a tour with no less than 12 guys, and sometimes over 40 is pretty fun, but there are always some newbies who assume I’m there for one reason only. They are promptly put in their place.
I can come across quite standoffish at first. I’ve been told “I thought you hated me for a while” more than once. Usually, I’m surprised to hear that, but other times, it’s warranted, because I likely did, and still do. First impressions are imperative.
At this point, even those who do not know me, usually know of me (this scene is the epitome of “Damn. Small world isn’t it?”. They know I am very helpful and very caring. Super professional, and will always go out of my way to make sure everyone is happy. Where do you think the name Tourmama came from? And 616? That’s my birthday and I like money.
What they also know, is if you push me, I will bite back. HARD.
I also have a reputation of loathing local bands. In fact, the band I am currently managing love to remind me of the time I came through their home town of Reykjavik with an international artist and they were local openers. I hadn’t seen them since then and they were not even in my peripheral sight during the gig, let alone after. Yet here we were..on a tour bus together and I was their tour manager.
After my whole “Welcome to the Tour” speech, the singer and drummer approached me and said, “You don’t remember us, do you?”
“Ummm, no, have we met before?”
“Ahh, yeah. Reykjavik, 2005. We supported a band you were there with.”
“Oh, sorry, I don’t remember.”
“Well we do. You were a total bitch to us because we took too long setting up and we played over our time. Then you pulled the plug on us.”
“Yeah, that sounds like something I’d do. You know why? Because I was hired by that band, to work in their best interest, and you know what? If we have a local band on this tour and they behave like you did, I’ll do the same thing for you.”
“We like you already.”
A year later, they asked me to manage them.
So yes, I have a reputation…it precedes me. It is accurate, and I’m completely content with it. For more on this, please visit a blog about one of my other jobs on the road: The Top 5 Most Ridiculous Questions Asked At the Merch Stand.